Hope. I have noticed that I use this word a lot. I use it as a way of acknowledging possibilities. I also recognize that it can sound wishy washy or pithy, as in ‘hopes and prayers.’ It can sound like it doesn’t have a lot of substance. I learned something new about hope this week: hope is learned strength.
Researchers tell us that we experience hope when we have 3 things:
the ability to set realistic goals,
the ability to figure out how to achieve those goals (including staying flexible to develop alternative pathways), and
we believe in ourselves that we can do it. (We have agency) [1]
Hope doesn’t magically manifest itself. Hope is born of struggle, of making our way through adversity and discomfort. [2] Like when we face challenges to who we think we are or should be, what’s important to us or should be, our values, the way we think the world works, or our self confidence. Hope relies on change being possible because sometimes we cannot change social constructs. We learn hope by trying, by working through challenges, and recognizing our learning along the way to our goal. Those learnings are our strengths that tell us we can have hope again.